ABC News: Why Can’t a Successful Black Woman Find a Man?

I’m wishing Steve Harvey, Sherri Shepard, Jacque Reid, Hill Harper, and Jimi Izrael Good Luck as they try to answer this age old question:  Why Can’t a Successful Black Woman Find a Man?  I’m sure the panel will try their hardest, but the answer is as elusive as some have found the search for their man to be.  I’ll surely live blog this one, so look out for that.  All my Georgia ladies and gents, the event is happening in your neck of the woods so let me know if you get a ticket so I can hear the unedited scoop.



In the United States, black college educated women outnumber black college educated men 2 to 1. Considering all the other factors that could lend to this disproportion, it’s not surprising people wonder why many successful black women cannot find a man.  ABC News “Nightline” asks this question and relevant others–Are black women’s expectations too high? Who’s to blame, Black women or black men? – in the next “Nightline Face Off” in Decatur, Georgia on Friday, April 9.

In this “Face-Off,” the 7th in the program’s series, Sherri Shepherd, Emmy award-winning co-host of ABC’s “The View” and Jacque Reid, star of VH1’s “Let’s Talk About Pep” will debate Hill Harper, CSI star and author of The Conversation, and Jimi Izrael, author of The Denzel Principle. Steve Harvey, radio talk show host and bestselling author of Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man and “Nightline’s” Vicki Mabrey will co-moderate the debate.  Shepherd and Reid will participate as single, successful African American females who have difficulty finding an equal match while Harper and Izrael argue that single women should look beyond stereotypes when choosing a black man.

The “Nightline Face-Off” – Why can’t a successful black woman find a man? – takes place Friday, April 9th at 7:00pm ET at the Porter Sanford Performing Arts Center in Decatur, Georgia. The “Face-Off” is a series launched two years ago in which hot topics are debated among prominent voices in their field. To obtain media credentials, please contact Alison Bridgman at 212-456-1578; For more on the “Face Off” visit:

What: “Nightline” Face-Off : Why can’t a successful black woman   find a man? Moderated by correspondent Vicki Mabrey and radio talk show host Steve Harvey

Who: Sherri Shepherd: Co-Host of ABC’s “The View”

Jacque Reid, VH1’s “Let’s Talk about Pep”

Hill Harper, CSI-NY actor and author of “The Conversation”

Jimi Izrael, NPR contributor & author of “The Denzel Principle”

When: Friday, April 9, 2010

7:00pm-9:00pm ET

Doors open at 6pm, *first 600 attendees will be seated

Where: Porter Sanford Performing Arts Center

3181 Rainbow Drive

Decatur, GA

*** Please note: media interested in covering this debate must submit credential requests to no later than 12:00pm/ ET on Thursday, April 8th.

“Nightline” is anchored by Cynthia McFadden, Terry Moran, and Martin Bashir.  James Goldston is the executive producer.  “Nightline” airs at 11:35 p.m. (ET/PT) weeknights on the ABC Television Network.


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14 Responses to ABC News: Why Can’t a Successful Black Woman Find a Man?

  1. So let me get this right. Jacque Reid who drills men on the first date like an interrogator with a laundry list as long as my arm, Jimi “I hate black women because two did me wrong”, Hill “HowUDoin” Harper, Steve “I hope this 3rd wife’s the charm” Harvey and Sherri “I’m still giving it up to my husband that cheated on me” Shepherd are the best they can do?

    Please let this tired topic die down already. All they’re doing is fanning the fire and making money off of a perceived, yet unfounded, problem.

  2. There are very few of us to choose from.
    I have an Ivy League degree, was outnumbered 3 to 1 by Black women on my campus, and none of them EVER gave me the time of day. Instead I only heard (untrue) rumours about myself, from that same group. Why would I want to date them, seriously?
    When we try to put ourselves out there for black women, we’re victims to the gossip, the negativity, the super-human expectations…
    I’ve been looked over numerous times only to hear women complaining about how they were treated by that dog so-and-so…serves them right. They spent so much time ostracizing the right guy, that they can’t find him (or he’s moved on).

    It’s hard enough living up to what we want to be as Black men in America (the 5,016 of us not in jail), why do we need extra pressure and critiques from someone we’re just trying to love?

    Then you all hold conferences discussing this mess?
    Why Can’t Successful Black Men Find Black Women That Accept Them For Who They Are?
    Why Does A Black Man That Doesn’t Fit Into Typical Stereotypes Have To Be Ridiculed By His Own Community? :)
    I had this discussion literally yesterday, so I apologize for the heat.

  3. D. Rhoden

    First of all – Steve Harvey and Sherri Shepherd are unqualified for the discussion. He’s had endless affairs and marriages, and Sherri Shepherd is a ditz who pretends is supposed to be a Christian but things she says and does prove otherwise. If you are going to have dialogue should have folks with credibility!

  4. @theefunklord
    I find your perspective interesting. The few Ivy League brothas I’ve met have been gay. Adorably well-dressed, well-mannered, and unavoidably unavailable. Such is life.

    I think there’s just so much anxiety on the part of women about being lifelong singles that we sometimes create issues where there are none. Likewise, most men poison the gender disparity by using it to their advantage. Chicken and the egg…

    Personally, my present singleness is partially self-inflicted. I’m a Christian AND I don’t like fake stuff. That cuts out most of everybody: non-Christians and half of Christians! I guess my “reward is in heaven”…

  5. oh wait, just checked your site.
    holla at ya girl! :)

  6. Mr. F

    Same reason successful white women cant find non-beta-male husbands; they’re bitches. What man with options want’s to put up with that, if he doesn’t have to?

  7. KIM B

    Steve Harvey can tell you what NOT to do — but who have to go to a Bible man of God to find out what to do. (Not a fanatic, or extremist).

    And Sherry — needs to get it together as well.

  8. Golly! Are we back at this again? Surely there are far more important issues than whether or not Black Women will get a man. Oh yes there are! We can focus on the “Don’t touch my hair” articles.
    Note: It’s late hence the lack of passion.

  9. This topic has more lives than Lucky the cat in the old Tex Avery Cartoons..
    As to credentials what exactly would those credentials be – is there an actual school (traditional sense) that gives out accredation for being able to speak on relationships.
    No worries they will eventually get around to asking average Jill and Joe…at least if this topic has as many lives as it seems to.

  10. The reality is that in American society many women (black, white, hispanic, etc) are afraid to be alone. Women who are not in relationships and are very concerned about that fact are the ones who bring up this issue time and time again looking for an answer to their singleness. It’s called “Audience”. There is an audience for the books, tv shows, conference workshops, etc. That means someone can make money off of the issue. Thus, it will be around until there is no audience to engage.

    The issue will go away when the number of single Black women goes down…especially those between 30-40.

  11. KBliss

    I think it’s sad that this is even still being discussed. But I guess I know why.

    Looking at the Facebook info of the women I went to school with, a high percentage are single.

    Whether say they are divorced or never been married, I can’t say.

    The reasons they are single are probably as many and varied as the women are different.

    Having said that, I hope Steve Harvey does NOT use his presence as an excuse to talk about his book… *rolling my eyes*

  12. KBliss

    Also @ theefunklord:

    Not downplaying your “game” or your good looks (said tongue-in-cheek because I don’t know you), but you may not have been the “type” that your sistas on campus were looking for.


    That was then.

    Are you still single? If so, you might be hanging out in the wrong places and still carrying that baggage…

    Try changing your venues AND your feelings that you are victim of all you mentioned in your reply to this post.

    And heads up brother.

    Obviously the panel will convene because there ARE still women out there looking for the few good men who are left.

    Bring out your A-game and get ready to play.

    There IS someone out there for you. If you’re serious about finding her, you MUST keep looking.

  13. Ruben Lash

    I must be in a different world. I am a successful black man who has been looking for a good black woman for sometime now. Even with this supposedly uneven ratio of black women to men, I have found although there is quantity, I have not found quality. I am at the stage in life where I do not want to be involved with someone who has young children and I attracted to women who take pride in their appearance and health. If women can demand what they want, I think it’s only fair for men to do the same. I don’t think I am asking for a lot. Just someone to meet me half way. Really wish I could find her. Why is it so hard? rumu7at

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