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“Baby Momma” and other things that are not job titles

“Baby Momma” is not a job title.  It should not be the period at the end of your life’s run-on sentence.  I don’t care if your Baby Daddy is Lil Wayne and you’re standing at Rikers Island today with arms wide open and a fresh weave (all 3…I mean 4 of yall…I think…hell I don’t know how many chicks have had Lil Wayne’s kids!).

I know a whole lot of strong single moms out there who are not just “baby mommas”.  They are working professionals, artists, spiritual sages, supportive friends, and so much more.  I’m seeing a wave on TV and online (blogs mostly) where black women who have had babies by male stars are simply referred to as “So-in-so’s Baby Momma”.  Not the “Girlfriend” or “Ex-girlfriend”.  Not the “Mother of his child”.  No acknowledgement of the fact that some of these women are stars in their own right, business owners, etc.  I take issue with this because we live in an aspirational society where we see black girls striving to be video vixens.  I’m talking “stand there and shake you butt” chicks, not I have a “M.F.A in Dance from Howard” professional dancers.  (I can respect strippers more than video models because they have a regular gig and can work a 40 hour week.)  Will young girls looking for acceptance and wanting the fame decide that being the “Baby Momma” of some notable man is the new route to stardom?

Just because you get a check doesn’t make it a job.  Things happen.  A lot of women are single moms, but most of the ones I know would not suggest someone take on that role in an effort to come up in the world.  It’s not different than aspiring to win the lottery or play for the NBA…most that try won’t win and most try won’t play.

Other things that aren’t job titles:

  • BOSS – Said the way Fantasia’s brother says it.  If you don’t have employees on a payroll, you’re not a boss
  • Jumpoff
  • Video Vixen – Not the same as a model
  • Rapper – If you are over the age of 40 and you’re not legend in the game.  It could be a hobby, though.

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Charlie Sheen called his wife a n-word 3+ years ago…and?

Charlie Sheen has apologized for the voice mail message that came out this week where he calls his former wife, Denise Richards, amond other things the N-word (actually he called her an f***ing n-word…Perez Hilton has the transcript). And???? Black people, are we surprised? Do we not realize that the n-word is being used to describe all kinds of people, all over the world? It’s a slur. Look it up in the dictionary sometime.

In the apology he says,
“I deeply apologize by my choice of words to all I have obviously offended; especially to Tony Todd, an African-American, who was my best man at my first two weddings,” Sheen said in a statement on Wednesday.

[shaking my head] Damn, he had to apologize to his “black friend” on that one. Wow…lol. As they say, “You know you done f’d up, right?”

“And for the record, my children did not show up today for a custodial visit without explanation. So three and one-half years later, the reasons that caused the anger and frustration displayed on that voicemail continue to be manifested on a daily basis.”

I’m sure there are some brothers out there who can relate and who have called their baby momma an n-word or two when it comes to seeing their kids or (of course) child support. Let that be a lesson for yall. Let your baby daddy see his kids, Shoot!!

I hope all of hollywood has learned by now…don’t leave anything in a voice mail message that you don’t want to hear on TMZ and the gossip blogs in the future. Make a note, people!!! Ask Mr. Baldwin and that punk Dog Chapman. Dumb, dumb, dumb!

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