When I first arrived in DC, I would say that it was extremely rare to see an interracial couple composed of a Black Woman and a White Man. An Oddity of sorts. Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m all for it. Other than a few visions of Master/Slave forced relations that pop into my head at the initial thought, I think it’s a win win.
In the last 2 years, on the streets of DC, I’ve noticed a huge rise in the number of Black Women and White Men I see coupled up. I’m talking young, old, professional, yuppies, bohos, BMW drivers, and pickup truck enthusiasts. Blacks and whites of all different strata. I know Essence did an article on this topic maybe a year ago, so maybe people took that as a permission slip. I’m just wondering, Hello Negro family, if you’re seeing what I’m seeing and what you think about it? Does this form of interracial dating carry the stigma that Black Man/White Woman dating does for some in the African American community?
Honestly, I’m real tried to hearing the “I can’t find a man” swan song from African-American professional women who have never tried online dating or interracial dating (two things I usually recommend when I hear people bitching about their singleness). Time to get down with the swirl, Ladies.
I’m wishing Steve Harvey, Sherri Shepard, Jacque Reid, Hill Harper, and Jimi Izrael Good Luck as they try to answer this age old question: Why Can’t a Successful Black Woman Find a Man? I’m sure the panel will try their hardest, but the answer is as elusive as some have found the search for their man to be. I’ll surely live blog this one, so look out for that. All my Georgia ladies and gents, the event is happening in your neck of the woods so let me know if you get a ticket so I can hear the unedited scoop.
STEVE HARVEY AND “NIGHTLINE’S” VICKI MABREY TO CO-MODERATE LIVE DEBATE AT THE PORTER SANFORD PERFORMING ARTS CENTER IN DECATUR, GA
FRIDAY, APRIL 9th AT 7:00PM ET
In the United States, black college educated women outnumber black college educated men 2 to 1. Considering all the other factors that could lend to this disproportion, it’s not surprising people wonder why many successful black women cannot find a man. ABC News “Nightline” asks this question and relevant others–Are black women’s expectations too high? Who’s to blame, Black women or black men? – in the next “Nightline Face Off” in Decatur, Georgia on Friday, April 9.
In this “Face-Off,” the 7th in the program’s series, Sherri Shepherd, Emmy award-winning co-host of ABC’s “The View” and Jacque Reid, star of VH1’s “Let’s Talk About Pep” will debate Hill Harper, CSI star and author of The Conversation, and Jimi Izrael, author of The Denzel Principle. Steve Harvey, radio talk show host and bestselling author of Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man and “Nightline’s” Vicki Mabrey will co-moderate the debate. Shepherd and Reid will participate as single, successful African American females who have difficulty finding an equal match while Harper and Izrael argue that single women should look beyond stereotypes when choosing a black man. Continue reading
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The BEST Erykah Badu song I’ve heard from her new stuff. I was in love with “The Healer”, but now…it’s all about Annie. Hil-lar-e-ous!!!! I love the lyrics to this song. Love, love, love!!!
Message from Sista…
Hey, StuffBlackPeopleLike.com aka StuffBlackPeopleLove.com is looking for contributors. How do I know? It’s our newest blog. LOL Yes, Hello, Negro’s newest venture is trying not to let the site turn into another “Hot Ghetto Mess” and at the same time foster some discussion about Black popular culture. The whole stuff(fill in the blank)peoplelike think is trendy right now, but we we want to create something lasting, so that means diverse content. I thought about it…give it a good 200 posts and you would be hard pressed to find something new to say Black people like that is acutally authentic and genuine. We don’t just want posts about stuff Black people like, we also want you to write about what black culture is (and what it’s not). Who better to do that than a whole lot of different black folk from different backgrounds. We’re just starting out so there isn’t much content, but take a look.
If you have a blog and would like to be a regular contributor send a link to your site for review. If you would just like to submit a post, send it and we’ll review it. Email: firstname.lastname@example.org. We will eventually convert this blog into a community blog.
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Love, picture perfect. Barack loves Michelle. Michelle loves Barack. Can’t you just see it carved in a tree with a heart around it. I love Black Love, yall!!
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As a 30 something black woman living in Chocolate City I’ve come to an interesting conclusion regarding love and dating with regard to the African American community as it currently stands.
Black Men have lots of viable, desireable options when it comes to marriage and love. Black Women don’t, and may have to come to grips with the fact that many of them who want marriage will never find it.
Now, I come to this conclusion not from a scientific study or quantitative measure…this is just opinion. However, I’d like to know…Is it just me or does the dating scene seem a little bleek for African American women let’s say….30-45 years of age??? You tell me? Sistas, are you meeting good men, men that you think would make good husbands and fathers? Brothers, are black women superficial and trying to find mates that don’t exist? Does anyone out there in the dating world actually know what they want…are they realistic in their desires?
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Donda West joined her son, Kanye West, backstage at the 48th annual Grammy Awards in Los Angeles in 2006. (AP photo by Reed Saxon / February 8, 2006)
It’s always terribly hard to lose a loved one, especially your mother. Hello, Negro is sending out lots of love and peace to Kanye West on the death of his mother, Donda West, who passed on Saturday. Your fans, family, and yes, Jesus too, we all walk with you during this time, my brother!! Blessings
Hello, Negros and Non-Negro friends!,
I run another blog, singlesista.com, where I talk about African American Women finding love. As a single African American women, I’ve found that one of the major topics of conversation among my single sistafriends is how to meet a good man and have a long term relationship that could possibly result in marriage. I personally think it has a lot to do with the overall pool (and shortage in that pool) of available black men. However, I’ll save my detailed thoughts on that for another time. I’m many times scowled at when I propose the possibility that black women may have to get comfortable the possibility with being alone for the rest of their lives due to a number of factors….
1. Men don’t find them attractive (Weight, let themselves go, dating younger women, men are visual..etc)
2. They are too picky and don’t want to “settle” for less than the brother that fits their “list”. Not tall enough, not “black” enough, doen’t make enough…etc
3. They don’t try hard enough. They think a good black man is going to just magically appear. Most of these women don’t date online or go out of their way to be in the presence of men (it’s a numbers game).
4. They don’t acknowledge that murder (crack was king in the late 80’s and 90’s), the prison system, homosexuality being more accepted in society (and the down low)…all affect the numbers of available men. The ratio of single black men to single black women 1-5 or more in many cities.
5. They don’t date outside of their race.
I’d like to know what you think about number 5. Here are some reasons I’ve found as to why black women don’t date outside of their race.
- Dating outside of your race is something that African American women have routinely bad mouthed African American men for doing. It’s very, very hypocritical for those same women to now date white, hispanic, asian…men.
- Black women assume that men of other races (most notably white men) don’t find them attractive. One of the major reasons why…They don’t get hit on by men of other races. Some of this can be explained by where black women spend their leisure time and where they meet men (all black environments, such as church, vs. mixed environments).
- Black women are taught in the home and the culture that the perfect man for them will be a black man.
- Connotation from slavery (domination by a white master, rape) still linger in the subconscious of black culture
- Family and community may not approve. Many black men are offended by black women dating white men, and feel it’s a betrayal.
- The need to have a partner in the struggle, someone who understands the black experience
- Not wanting to be desired because of your ethnicity, “black concubine” syndrome
Why should black women date outside of their race? What do you think about it. Are you a black woman who’s been involved in an interracial relationship. Tell me the positive, negative and in between.